Source: # The Empty Plate *Ananya Menon, fifteen, from Kochi, had always been a high achiever. After a classmate teased her about her weight, she started 'eating healthy'. Soon she cut out sweets, then dinner, then whole meals. She exercised in he…* Ananya Menon, fifteen, from Kochi, had always been a high achiever. After a classmate teased her about her weight, she started 'eating healthy'. Soon she cut out sweets, then dinner, then whole meals. She exercised in her room at night and wore loose clothes. Her mother noticed that she moved food around the plate, said she had eaten earlier, and became furious if anyone commented. She was often cold and tired, and her periods had stopped. Her parents argued about whether to force her to eat. Her younger brother stopped inviting friends home. Ananya insisted she was fine and that she looked 'too big'. In the mirror she saw something others did not. Her school counsellor spoke gently to the parents about the possibility of an eating disorder, a serious illness and not a phase of vanity. They took Ananya to a paediatrician, who checked her heart, blood tests and growth, and referred her to a team including a psychiatrist, a dietitian and a family therapist. The team explained that anorexia nervosa involves intense fear of weight gain and a distorted body image, and that the family is part of the treatment, not the cause. Recovery was slow, with setbacks. But with supervised meals at home, therapy and medical monitoring, Ananya slowly regained strength. 'I thought I was in control,' she said. 'The illness was in control of me.' ### How to recognise it - Rapid weight loss, skipping meals, avoiding eating with others, or ritual eating. - Intense fear of gaining weight and harsh self-criticism about body shape despite being thin. - Excessive exercise, wearing baggy clothes, or hiding food. - Physical signs such as tiredness, feeling cold, dizziness, hair loss or missed periods. - Irritability, secrecy and withdrawal; the pattern may also show as binge eating, vomiting after meals or restricted eating without weight fear. ### What this story explains The chapter describes the eating disorders, including anorexia, bulimia, binge-eating disorder, ARFID and OSFED. The story shows that they are serious illnesses that need early medical and psychological help, with family involvement. ### Probable root causes - Pressure about body shape from peers, media or family comments. - Perfectionism, anxiety or low self-worth. - Dieting, which can trigger an illness in people who are vulnerable. - Genetic and biological factors, along with life stress or teasing. ### What to do 1. Take it seriously and arrange a medical check early. 2. Talk privately and calmly, focusing on your concern and not on weight or food. 3. Seek a team of specialists: doctor, mental health professional and dietitian. 4. Keep family meals calm and supportive, following the team's advice. 5. Look after yourself as a parent or carer as well. ### Whom to consult - Family doctor or paediatrician urgently for a physical check of heart, blood and growth. - Psychiatrist or clinical psychologist experienced in eating disorders. - Dietitian to plan safe, supervised refeeding. - School counsellor to help with school support; emergency services or the nearest hospital if there is fainting, chest pain or thoughts of self-harm. ### Do and don’t **Do** | **Don’t** | Do stay calm and caring. | Don't comment on weight, body or food choices. | Do seek professional help early. | Don't force-feed or bargain in anger. | Do keep mealtimes relaxed and free of arguments. | Don't blame the parents or the child. | Do praise qualities unrelated to appearance. | Don't treat it as a phase. | Do be patient with relapses. | Don't delay a medical check. | ### How to behave and communicate - Use 'I' statements: 'I am worried because you seem tired and sad, and I love you.' - Avoid talking about looks, calories or weight. - Listen to feelings behind the behaviour, such as fear or shame. - Stay steady if the person gets angry; try again later. - Say 'We will get through this together.' 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